Saturday, October 01, 2005 @11:13 PM
I like to take this opportunity to clearly define the meanings of certain terms before the misunderstanding deepens..
The definition of backstab: To attack (someone) unfairly, especially in an underhand, deceitful manner.
The defintion of complain: To express feelings of pain, dissatisfactioon or resentment.
Clearly, the line seperating the definitions of these 2 words is seemingly blurred. If A is unhappy with B and told C about the unhappy incident, is that consider backstab? Personally, if A distorts the facts and simply told C for the sake of turning C against B, i will deem that as backstabbing. However, if A merely told the truth about the whole thing, I will classify this as complain. I think it is imperative to get these 2 definitions straight for the wrong usage of words will cause C to get a wrong impression on B.
Very often, we love to complain about other people. Yet when other people complain about us, we have the propensity to take it hardly. The moment someone complain about us, we instantaneouly label that person as a backstabber. The thing is, since we are also complaining about other people constantly, does that make us backstabbers as well?? Let's reflect on ourselves. The most important thing is, broaden your mind. We are already young adults.
I've always find friendship quarrals very childish and meaningless. It's not only a waste of time, but a waste of my brain cells. Perhaps, I've always been a very practical and realistic person. I like to take things easy. Shumin once told me friends do come and go.. Go in the sense that they drift away from us at some point of time but if they are really ur bestest friends, they will still come back eventually.. I ponder about that and i realise that she said is true..
♥ -Dollicious-Sinner-